How it works

For once in my life, it’s all about me.

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Why plan your celebration of life?

Avoid family stress at this difficult time

At the time of your passing, a whole load of emotions and stress are triggered. For some people this can be the most distressing time in their life, especially if that life has been cut short and was totally unexpected.

Having a record of a person's wishes goes a long way to mitigating these stresses, especially for families left holding the pieces.

Agree your wishes before you go

The objective of B4 My Final Destiny is to record your wishes for when it's your time to leave this world and aid those responsible for the planning of your service. We provide plenty of resources to assist you in the planning of a service.

Remember having too much information on your site is better than too little. It gives those entrusted with planning your celebration of life plenty of material to work with.

What does a service include?

Different people will be involved in the planning process, so the information you provide will make that process as seamless and fluid as possible to create a bespoke fitting celebration of life for you.

This all goes towards reducing the stress normally associated with such an occasion, especially for those family members or those close to you who are already dealing with their loss and the responsibility of preparing your funeral.

A service typically lasts for about 30 or 40 minutes and each bespoke service is broken down into the following parts:

Your arrival

  • How would you like to arrive, traditional or a unique and quirky way
  • How would you like people to be dressed, a particular theme or affiliation
  • Who would you like to carry you in
  • What entry music would you like
  • A favourite personal belonging on display

Main service

  • Choose a celebrant to lead the service
  • Write a timeline of your life
  • Choose a selection of music, hymns, poems, readings, you would like to be included in your service
  • Choose a person to read the Eulogy and people to read personal tributes

Period of reflection

  • Choose and store a selection of pictures that chronicle and reflect your life
  • Choose a particular song to compliment the reflection

The Committal

  • Choose a favourite poem, reading or prayer to be read for this segment
  • Choose for the curtains to be closed or left open, some people like to come and say their goodbyes

End of service

  • Choose an exit piece of music
  • Would you like flowers or suggest a charity you would like donations made to instead
  • Choose a venue for your wake

Although my days are numbered and I may not have long,
I’ve some memories to share, and ideas for my swan song.

I have a few requests and some things to talk about,
Things that I want done when my lights at last go out.

There are stories of my life that you may not yet know;
Memories that have faded or been lost long years ago.

So please respect my wishes, and use them on the day
When it’s time for me to take my final steps along the way.

Let us know your wishes

Why not leave great memories of cherished moments for when you are gone?

When using B4 My Final Destiny, we will collect important details that will be vital in bringing together a fitting service for your celebration of life.

Some of the details we may ask about include:

Type of funeral

Whether you would like a burial, a green funeral or a cremation. 

Transport

Whether you would like a horse drawn carriage or a hearse.

Dress

The clothing you want to be dressed in, or what you would like your pallbearers to wear.

Venue

The place to host your wake - this could be your favourite pub or a treasured place.

Details about your life

A chronology of your life in brief or as much detail as you want to disclose, headed by the year for reference.

Music, songs and poems

A selection of songs or music that are your favourites or personal to you - these will be used during different sections of the service.

Videos and photos

A montage of photos that depict your life - these will go towards the reflection segment.

Any other details

What kinds of flowers would you like? Would you like to choose a coffin? Maybe you’d like to organise a donation to a certain cause instead?

Ready to begin?

Your B4 My Final Destiny personal profile takes you through your funeral options and preferences step-by-step, with an easy-to-use form.

Why not involve the people closest to you so you can record your wishes together, so you have ultimate peace of mind when the time comes.

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Make funeral planning easier with B4 My Final Destiny

We’re here to support you and help you plan your celebration of life every step of the way.